Soup,
The real problem is, women are not respected unless they act like a man. This can also be applied to race (act white, and we’ll respect you!). And I think that’s bullshit.
Love,
Seagull
I disagree a little bit on this point. If you are talking in generalizations sure, okay, I can see where you are coming from. However if a person is raised with proper morals & ethics there should be no issues. I am sure someone will read this and say, “here’s Tom just trying to get in the good graces(i.e. the pants) of some by taking the moral high ground”. If you think that, so be it. I can’t spend my days trying to change cynical minds.
Anyway, I was raised to respect everyone. I won’t lie and say that my folks did not carry any biases, my Dad watched the Bronx change, & not for the better, after his childhood & my mom grew up in South Boston (enough said). So where my ‘rents were lacking in understanding my older sister stepped in. The other kids families who I played soccer with from middle school on through H.S., where I was one of only a couple of white kids on the team, opened my eyes after 7 years of private school in NY. I had it instilled in me to accept, embrace, & learn about others who were different than me rather than reject. It’s one thing to say it & of course much more significant to practice it. For me it comes easy & I hope I lead by example. Shit I would be a failure as a man if my future kids end up being any less tolerant than myself.
In my eyes, & many people I know as well, everyone is equal until your actions prove that you are not. By that I mean you show yourself to be ignorant towards others & in turn not deserving of my being courteous or respectful. I certainly had it ingrained in me from a young age to always respect women. As a kid if I failed to do this I learned the hard way. The painful way. Now as an adult I am pretty proud that those traits have carried over to my professional career as well as my personal life.
I like people to be who they really are & not who they feel they have to pretend to be.
